Thank you Lord for giving me a man who hears my tears and reassures me
Despite the distance, he knows how to encourage me, such that I feel him near me
And thank you for giving me a man who cares not just about me, but also my spirit
Who hears my frustrations, understands, but then says
“Have you prayed about it?”
Not in a dismissive way
But because he knows there are limits to what he can do for my spirit and that for the ultimate comfort I need to seek the Almighty
I tell you
his words comforted me
But his encouragement to seek Him soothed my restless spirit
I read the word after I got off the phone with him
And read 2 Peter 3:9 and became encouraged, inspired, and reinvigorated
He knows when to be there for me, and when to step aside and let God do His work
And I’m eternally grateful for him
If there is one flaw that I always have to work on
I’m impatient with people and with life
That points to being impatient with God and lacking faith
God put me here not to just get from A to B
But to make me go THROUGH it
Because the process has a purpose
Today at work, an older woman at work talked to me and I described my frustrations
And she told me
“A delay is not a denial. It may take you a few more years. But have faith and be grateful”
And she is 100% right
What I see as a denial in opportunity is just God delaying me, preparing me until I’m ready
I tend to be a practical logical person
I’m a doer and a planner
So when I am told to sit and wait
My patience is tested and ultimately so is my faith
I need to me patient and I need to do the work I can do and be patient until I am able to address other things
Patience and faith is going to get me through
I know it
Because He told me so
The Lord is not slow to fulfill his promise as some count slowness, but is patient toward you, not wishing that any should perish, but that all should reach repentance.
2 Peter 3:9
I’m struggling with patience today. I see the woman I want to be in the future and i think of the plans God has for me…and then I look at me now and just feel like…like how does He expect so much of me? To be this great woman in my career and life…how could I possibly get there from where I am now?
I have to remind myself that He will make a way. My boyfriend told me when I was having a moment “God didn’t bring you out there to fail”. And he’s right. God knows my heart and capabilities more than anyone…including me. When I tell myself there is no way, God steps in to show me how wrong I am. He has blessed me in so many ways. And there are moments when I wonder why because I don’t feel like I’m worth it. And then I remind myself well obviously He thinks I’m worth it, even when I don’t.
He never gives you something you can’t handle. So obviously He’s put me here because He thinks I can handle it. He thinks in worth it. So I must be able to handle it and I must be worth it.
Everyone has their moments. Unfortunately mine was an hour and a half before my final. But the Lord is my refuge and my strength. This is hard, but not impossible. I’ll be ok because He told me so.
hm. i don’t know how to answer this because i don’t know what “nice” means. i think that i treat everyone with respect, that i value courtesy and cordial exchange. but many people think being nice means letting people walk all over you
my cousin came to us one night because her boyfriend had shoved her so hard into the wall that there was a hole in it
the whole family was tight
we called the police and were upset because this man had put his hands on my cousin
what she didn’t tell us
was that in the middle of the night, she broke the headboard to the bed and dropped it on to his head because he fell asleep during an argument
she was so tight and mad at him, she broke the damn Ikea headboard
and whacked him upside the head with it while he was asleep
and when he woke up, his reaction was to push her and then he left the house
we were later informed of several times when they would fight in the streets, her doing things like slapping him in the face in front of his friends, calling him a bitch, etc. etc.
as well as one incident when she got so mad at him, she pulled a handful of his hair out of his damn scalp, shaking his locks in her face shouting “that’s what you get for talking to other females”
my point is
in no way shape or form am i trying to distract from the fact that domestic violence disproportionately affects more women than men and has left women and families severely battered
that being said
under no circumstance is it ok for a woman to believe that because her man is not supposed to touch her, that means she can do whatever the hell she wants to him
and then the one time he hits her back, shout domestic violence
again, this is one instance, and i’m referring to instances like it
instances of when a woman does not control her hands her temper or her emotion, such that she disrespects her man and pushes him to the limit
no one should put their hands on anyone. do not abuse the relationship you have by abusing the person you claim to love. and specifically to the women, do not use the fact that your man cannot hit you back as a motivation to put your hands on him
find a better way to deal with your anger and frustration
keep your hands to yourself
But one time my boyfriend lied to me and took…
I dont know why the op is gender privy. It goes both ways.
i never said it didn’t. i don’t understand why people can’t comprehend that you can have a post that is geared towards one audience, while it still not excluding the fact that it could apply to other audiences.
since you asked why, i spoke specifically about this because we are told men shouldn’t hit women. and obviously some men don’t listen, and that’s disgusting. however, the conversation often doesn’t go both ways, and there is not the message of “no one should put their hands on anyone”. so that’s why i said it like this.
All of my close male friends kinda treat women like crap….
their girlfriends in particular…
so I have a lot of out of pocket stories about their aint-shit-ness that make me slightly paranoid with new guys
and I don’t really have good examples of men my age having respect/consideration for the women they “love”
growing up around all dudes, i at first felt like i had a front row seat to get to know guys. but the shit i found out…man, i wish i’d never known. i went most of my life thinking that dudes only said “i love you” because that’s what they thought chicks wanted to hear. and spending saturdays on the couch where they would just go down their phone, callin up every chick they know, using the same line, until one fell for it and came over. dudes that could rationalize cheating on their girls like they were presenting their honors thesis…had me thinking “hm you do have a point there”…the things i’ve known…the things i’ve seen. it’s a wonder how i ever got to the point where i believed love was real