life is hard. and if you’ve been in a relationship for 8 years, if he’s having issues he should be turning to you for support, not ignoring you for a month. at this point, it’s not about his wants. do you want to be with him? can you put up with this every time things get hard?
i would say have one conversation where you explain your concerns and have a serious conversation about communication. a 15 min conversation every day with someone you love will not detract from him working on his problems. if he can’t make same for you, you have some decisions to make around your needs. because he’s thinking about him and his needs and it’s time you do the same