To be honest I don't know, I've just always assumed that it was okay for me to say it but Im beginning to think that I shouldn't be
i think that people say the word if they are raised to do so. yes, you are black. but saying the n word doesn’t make you more or less black.
that is why i asked why you want to say it. it’s not a word that you throw around for cool points or that it’s some prize. black folk have a very complicated relationship with the word. i would say if you’re using it, then you’re allowed to. but if you’re just saying it to say it, you may want to consider why you’re saying it in the first place
Is it okay for mixed race people to say the n word? I'm half Ghanaian and half Dominican and I've said it I'm the past because I identify primarily as black but someone pointed out that I shouldn't because I'm not fully black. Is it also wrong for Dominicans to say it?
I used to be with this guy and I lost my virginity to him.. After we did it i found out he just used me. I stopped talking to him but each time he found ways to contac me. I always see him around since we go to the same school... Not long ago I hung with one of my friends and he was there I ended up smoking weed, got high and ended up crying to him. I asked him why he hurt me and made me go through some bs and he had nothing to say other than ''sorry''. I don't know how am i suppose to move on
by realizing he was a dick and that you deserve better. it’s hard because you’re emotionally attached to the guy you had sex with for the first time. but it’s obvious that he didn’t appreciate that moment like you did.
avoid him when you can, move on, and busy yourself with self love. we deal with traumatic incidents in life by grieving and moving on. so grieve. then move on. believe that you derseve better
So i met this boy and college and we have been talking for about a month and half now Hes really sweet and and ambitious and yes hes black but the other day on twitter he tweeted "he wanted a trophy wife" and i have been seeing a lot of niggas say this every since kanye west song trophy when i confronted him about it he said it was a joke but it pushed me back now and i haven't talk to him since am i over exaggerating (he did say he was referring to white women when he said trophy wife)
i would say you’re overreacting. go off how he treats you, not his tweets. the two are one and the same, then your frustration is valid. other than that, it’s just twitter.
but also, just because a guy is sweet and ambitious doesn’t mean the sun shines out of his ass. if he’s great on purpose but is a jerk, that doesn’t mean you have to keep him around.
at the end of the day, trust your gut. i wouldn’t over analyze the tweet. but think a little bit more about his personality and if this is the guy you want to deal with
Natural hair question: my friend is a WoC who is trying to accept her natural hair, but doesn't know beauty regimes for natural black hair. I have found her a couple Tumblrs, but I have no idea what's good advice or bad. Do you have anything I can link her to?
So, I'm a white girl. I work at a place where a LOT of girls are getting harassed by strangers in the parking lot/plaza, and most of them are black girls being harassed by black men. How can I stand up for them without making it seem like I'm taking away their power/'saving' them, or demonizing/being prejudice towards the men? A lot of them are underrage, too, and none of the plaza's management is doing anything about it. How do you think I should use my privilege to stop this harassment?
Speak up. By virtue of you being a white girl, people will listen
Do you think black women lives and opinions are taken seriously like i feel like we're always the scrape goat for jokes both other races and black men like seeing so many memes making fun of this ideal black womanhood and than see people of my own race cosign like its funny and just honestly depressing
Na we’re not. Which is why we have to take ourselves seriously, even when no one else does
So I'm on track to head to law school but I could certainly use some advice on a few things. How did you decide on where you wanted to go to school and what state you wanted to take the bar in? What kind of law are you going to practice? How did you prepare for the LSAT?
I knew I needed to be in dc, and I also picked the school that was giving me a full scholarship based on my lsat score
I will be using the bar in ny, my home state
I took a Kaplan course
I know you're aware that you will be fairly well off after getting a job after law school. Do you ever get scared that you will let the money consume you? I've always intended on living simply, nothin' too much. I'm afraid I'll end up selfish and arrogant and let the money get to my head.
Nope. I see the legal field as one of public service. I intend to use my degree to put me in a position to make change in the criminal justice field. I’m motivated by God, who guides and humbles me.
So na, I’m not concerned about the money.
I am concerned about turning into a pompous jerk though lol. I have to remind myself to turn off my law stuff when I’m around lay people.
Do you have anything to say at all about that abortion question? Why didn't you try to explain God's viewpoint?
Have you spoken to God? Did He tell you exactly how He feels?
Because He most certainly has not told me. And I’m not in the business of speaking for God.
I know my perspective and I know I would not make that choice. But I’m not going to pretend to speak on God’s behalf.
But feel free to do that on your blog though
Since we are on the topic of interracial relationships what do you think when blacks are in relationships with other minorities. I'm black and my boyfriend is hispanic (not the white hispanic lol) and he's not ignorant to black issues which is what I like . Blacks and hispanics are both very discriminated and it's so easy for me to discuss race and white privilege with him. He understands sort of.,, that's why when it comes to IR dating I wish some black folks wouldn't just overlook minorities..
Too many anons in your ask have a problem with mixed black folk more or so light skin black folk to specific. It's really saddening seeing black folk hate on other black folk. Look at what colorism, white supremacy has done to us...but anyways it's nice seeing black folk like you who are confident, self loving (which is very hard thing for a lot of people) who support black love, but also black folk loving non black folk, and mixed children! You go Nissi!😄😄
Thank you my dear
It’s also just wild to me
I’m surrounded by black people who are married to other black people, raising black kids. It wasn’t until I got on here that I realized people were actually excited about eradicating blackness. Before I just thought it was “love who you love” only to see people actively hating themselves and wanting only mixed kids with the purpose of limiting blackness. I’d heard of it growing up, people saying “I want a baby with good hair”and things like that. But that was the minority.
I didn’t realize it’s as pervasive as it is. Sad stuff
If you had kids. Would you care if they didn't believe?
Are you asking if my kids grew up and weren’t Christian would I care?
Of course I would care. But I also know that being a parent ask you can do is raise them the best they can. If they grew up and chose to not practice, I would care. But I wouldn’t disown them and I’d love them just the same. But yea, I’d care. Probably think I did something wrong
My beautiful friend Sequoia brought her baby Jose to the property review session tonight
He was such the little angel and was quiet the whole class, while being wide awake
I couldn’t believe it! 5 months old and not a peep!
Until the professor started to talk about the rule of perpetuity and in the hypo he mentioned the word “baby”
And it was like he thought “he’s talking about me! It’s my time to shine!”
And he just started talking back to the professor
Just cooing and giggling and sucking on his fists and feet
Sequoia took him out and gave him to me and that sweet little boy stole my heart
I still have no clue how to apply the role of perpetuity
But I know for sure I want at least 47 kids