Young Black and Vegan

Jul 23

jungle--gardenia said: I am filled with JOY when you write about the hard work you and your boyfriend do! When you have two motivated whole people who are working to be their best and make the relationship the best, all you do is win. You are sharing your truth and creating spaces for other people to be proud of their healthy relationships, or say, 'Hey, there is something out there better for me!'

yes! being proud of the person you’re dating and your relationship is essential. thank you for the positive vibes and helping me to share in his joy :)

and in all honesty

when i was dating guys and pushing them to achieve

i was doing more harm than good

i was playing the role of their mother, not their girl friend

it’s not my job to fix men

and me doing it for them only further showed them that if they don’t do work that someone will  do it for them

so na, i refuse to do that again

for my sake and theirs

it’s not my job to fix broken men

“Make sure you don’t start seeing yourself through the eyes of those who don’t value you. Know your worth even if they don’t.” — Thema Davis (via minuty)

(via trillaryclinton)

do you know how amazing it is to be with a man that doesn’t need to be TOLD to work hard? to be ambitious? to achieve?

who, even though he may stumble, focuses on getting the work done to enjoy success later?

who isn’t afraid of a little blood, sweat and tears as he puts his all into his goals?

it’s amazing. because i have dated men in the past that needed to be hand held. i was always dating fixer uppers who had no goals

except to “grind”

whatever that means

no man is perfect and people will always need time to grow into their own

but i love not having to say “GROW!!” in order to motivate my man

he’s always looking for the next move, the next step

i love a man with just as strong of a work ethic as i have

God keeps blessing him and blessing him and blessing him

and seeing him grow in his blessings and focus on his walk

is amazing

he works so so hard and it keeps paying off

and then he says “i couldn’t have done it without you”

and it really just hits me that my success is his and his is mine

because we are each other’s support and biggest cheerleaders

all glory goes to him and his hard work though

it’s an honor to be by his side as he becomes the man God wants him to be

i’m just so excited for me big smart handsome guy :)

yes, it can be frustrating if you have certain values as a woman and you feel like dating is hard because of it

you look around and see other girls acting in another way and getting attention, and you’re not getting the attention you want, and you can begin to feel like your choices are holding you back and look at other women with scorn.

but

the issue is society. not other women. so don’t look down on other women because it’s more difficult to date. especially since other women have different dating issues that you may not even be thinking of

also, nothing worth having comes easy. so yea, it may be hard to date guys when you stick to your guns and they seem to walk away because of it. but you’re not trying to find guys, or lots of guys’ attention; you just need one. and if you’re patient and stick to your values, you’ll find the one for you.

dorkygoodness:

dynastylnoire:

luvyourmane:

What’s the definition of a “Good Woman” these days? Do you find the latter offensive? Would you consider yourself a “Bad Bxtch”?

ughhhh can we just stop this respectability bullshit. I find this entire post offensive. Like, just let women live

^^^^^

i think that the wording could have been better. because it can be frustrated when you have values but you think society doesn’t support those values. but the wording might be off

dorkygoodness:

dynastylnoire:

luvyourmane:

What’s the definition of a “Good Woman” these days? Do you find the latter offensive? Would you consider yourself a “Bad Bxtch”?

ughhhh can we just stop this respectability bullshit. I find this entire post offensive. Like, just let women live

^^^^^

i think that the wording could have been better. because it can be frustrated when you have values but you think society doesn’t support those values. but the wording might be off

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elegantly-tasteless:

blackmanonthemoon:

tinyfennekin:

This pisses me the fuck off. That page is getting an AUTOMATIC unlike I don’t even care what’s in the article but it’s fucking insensitive and I am livid.

Wow……I just

what the fuck

internalized hate of some black men doesn’t allow you to mourn for some black men? how sad

elegantly-tasteless:

blackmanonthemoon:

tinyfennekin:

This pisses me the fuck off. That page is getting an AUTOMATIC unlike I don’t even care what’s in the article but it’s fucking insensitive and I am livid.

Wow……I just

what the fuck

internalized hate of some black men doesn’t allow you to mourn for some black men? how sad

Anonymous said: It's almost like people can't Google vegan food blogs and see delicious vegan food with pictures and everything.

questions i ask myself all day every day

Anonymous said: Anon who's bf didn't want a serious relationship here, just wanted to update. We talked & he pretty much told me that He loves being with me & I make him very happy however he just wants to take some time to work on himself so he can better establish himself. During that very stressful process he didn't want to create a situation where things could go wrong in our relationship because of him. So for the time being he wants to continue to be exclusive but wants to have more & be better for us.

sounds like you guys are on a good path

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sometimes your problems are self made

that doesn’t make your struggle any less difficult or real for you

it just means you already have the answer to fixing the problem

it’s important that

when you’re ready

you get out of your own way, address the issue, and move on

took the day off from work

every so often you just have to say “no, not today” 

and take a personal day

Anonymous said: I wore a bikini to the beach with some friends and literally after the first like 5 minutes I wasn't self conscious at all :) just wanted to share with someone who is so positive and understanding. Thank you for being you.

sounds wonderful love! thank you for sharing