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That doesn't answer my question.
Asked by shodiwarmic
what is your question
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props to women that have the patience and the skill to wear make up every day
I had him read that and he goes, "well what does she want?" he's alright ;p
Asked by girl-in-flux
lol he’s a keeper!
My current bf buys me shit all the time (drives me nuts) but I'm happy bc he doesn't ask for anything sexual in return. I have dated guys who have done that kind of thing and at this point in my life I know how to stand up for myself, thank god.
Asked by girl-in-flux
i mean not every situation where a guy offers to pay is it for sexual favors. i don’t think guys are intrinsically that manipulative lol. i’m just saying my mom told me nothing in life is free so i’m always cautious of free shit.
your current bf sounds like a stand up guy. tell him i want him to buy me shit too!
I completely feel you on the guys buying you things post, guys buying stuff for me always makes me uncomfortable and if they insist on it, I end up giving them the side eye
Asked by deejaygetsinspired
i think it’s the insisting more than anything that urks me. like i could see it as a nice gesture; maybe they offered to pay because that’s what they are used to. but if i’m like, naw that’s ok, why do you need to insist? who are you trying to impress? what are you trying to prove?
Why is it that no matter how reasoned and non-judgmental your opinions and posts are, there are some people who seem determined to start a fight?
Asked by Anonymous
fams, i ask my self the same question erry day
would u date someone younger than u?
Asked by Anonymous
sure. i’m dating someone younger than me now.
i’m 5 months older than him and i rub it in his face every chance i get!
Young Black and Vegan: 267349: youngblackandvegan: organicthugsandlove: i don’t get the idea…
i don’t get the idea of “fetishizing.”
like, i do, but i don’t.. if that makes sense.
i need help understanding.
a fetish is something that induces a response of sexual desire
fetishizing is a verb, meaning turning…
It is relevant because when someone accuses someone of fetishizing an individual or a group they don’t take into account that you can fetishize without dehumanizing someone. Fetishization is not automatic dehumanization.
i see your point, except that i made it clear that this was one example to illustrate a point. never was it said that fetishization = dehumanizing. but i see your point regardless
when people respond to the posts i make
sometimes i wonder
did you read what i wrote?
or did you just skim it just so you could get to the end and add your two cents on the topic?
i have never been comfortable with men buying me things
my mom told me nothing in life is free
and as a result i’ve always felt like if a guy gets me something he will expect something in return
like if he buys me dinner he will expect sex
or if he buys me a gift he will expect sex
or if he takes me to the movies he will expect sex
so i tend to want to split the check or pay for my own things
this is not to say guys haven’t paid for me or bought me things
i just have friends that expect a guy to shower them with gifts or who get offended if they don’t pay for their date
i’m just saying
i’ve never been comfortable with it
a lot of people see it as being polite or providing for me
but i don’t need a guy to buy me things so i’ve never wanted it
and i’d rather we go dutch. split it equally. no one person owes another
idk. is this weird?
I don’t think it’s weird. I’m the same way.
I’ve in situations where I want to split a bill at dinner but the men for I’ve dated for the most part insisted on paying.
sometimes i think them insisting on it is because it’s what they’re supposed to do, not really for my benefit. because if i tell homie i want to pay and he’s like no i’m gonna pay it’s like…did you hear what i said?
like
i’ve heard guys that say things like
“i paid for the movie, for dinner, i even bought the bitch ice cream, and she still aint give me no pussy”
it wasn’t a genuine interest in treating the girl, buying her nice things just for the hell of it
it was doing things to seem like the intent was different than the actual intent
idk man
having guys buy me stuff kind of makes my balls itch
ion like it…
*unpopular opinion alert* I know when EYE pay for dates EYE like *something* in return. So. I’m not necessarily mad when guys are the same. There are def variables and whatnot— a first date is not a sixteenth date. But I think it’s weird that women expect to go out for expensive outings for free by virtue of being women.
not sure what the point your making is. because i’m not saying that a woman ought to be bought anything just because they are a woman. really, the whole point of this is “having guys buy me stuff kind of makes my balls itch” meaning, i don’t want to be bought any thing in the first place
i don’t get the idea of “fetishizing.”
like, i do, but i don’t.. if that makes sense.
i need help understanding.
a fetish is something that induces a response of sexual desire
fetishizing is a verb, meaning turning something into something worthy of sexual desire
as in, transforming something into a sexual object
so for example
one can fetishize black men
by seeing them not as men but as sexual objects
does that help?
Why can’t you see them as men and sexual objects?
no body said you couldn’t. that isn’t really relevant to the topic at hand. seeing men as sexual objects and men is not an example of fetishizing, and the question was about fetishizing
